I've been listening to that ubiquitous guru of personal success,
Anthony Robbins during my 7- and 10-km runs these days, burning through his 26-day Personal Power "Transformation" mp3s in a couple of weeks. This means I haven't really been completing the 'assignments' he suggests, as I would have to stop and freeze instead of running warmly to work. All the same, I think I've been absorbing some of the stuff he says...
One thing he shared yesterday on
Day 25: How to solve problems quickly and effectively that really resonated with me is how we ask questions of ourselves. Do any of these sound familiar?
- Why does this always happen to me?
- What's wrong with me?
- How come I can't do, or get, or afford.....?
Well, it seems that asking these apparently 'hypothetical' questions, your brain gets to work on finding answers - even - and especially if you don't actually want to know why! It'll search your databank of past situations to justify and explain why you once again have found yourself in a situation you don't want. If it can't find a reason immediately, it might even make up a ramdom one like, "coz your dumb."
These questions also presupposes some pretty limiting things:
- That this situation is part of a pattern.
- That there is something wrong with you!
- That you actually can't do, or get, or afford whatever it is you want to do.
By asking these limiting questions, your brain will always come up with answers - but not solutions.
So instead of asking questions that just make you feel bad about yourself or your situation, use these:
5 questions that will prompt your brain to find Solutions:
- What is great about this? (Or, what could be great about this?)
- What is not perfect yet?
(The presupposition is that it's going to be perfect!) - What am I willing to do to make things the way I want?
(The presupposition is that you're already willing to make changes, and that you can!) - What am I not willing to no longer do in order to make things the way I want?
- How can I do what's necessary to get this job done and enjoy the process?
So, by asking these questions, your brain will begin to search and find solutions for
yourself -
even if you don't
want - or are unable to feel positive about your current situation.
Try it!
How fast can you break out of limiting patterns?